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The gift that keeps on giving...

4/16/2013

 
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I grew-up in Boston, so the images of yesterday's terrorist attack at the Boston Marathon were particularly painful. Seeing the turmoil on those familiar streets - where so many of my friends and relatives had gathered at previous Marathons - was gut-wrenching. 

Right now, we have a daughter and grandson visiting us from Boston, and all of us here in Orlando were uneasy until we found out that our granddaughter who works in a nearby hotel was safe.

Make no mistake, even though they haven't caught the perpetrators, this was a terrorist attack. The whole point was to terrorize us, which brings me to my point: 

Why do we give terrorists what they want? The dead and maimed are only a means to an end for them. What terrorists want is fear and publicity. Of course there is local and immediate fear when a bomb explodes, but we can thank our news media for around-the-clock, long-lasting coverage of every gory detail, resulting in a national explosion of fear.  When you consider that there are a million car accidents each year, with over thirty-thousand random, innocent people killed, it should put this current horror show staged by terrorists into perspective. But no, we keep giving them this out-sized kind of attention. IMHO, all we’re doing is guaranteeing ourselves more of the same.

Lee


Who's lying to you? Body language tip #4

4/1/2013

 
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Hi! It’s me again, Julie O’Hara. Lee Hanson is busy writing TOPAZ TRAP - which is a great story - and she’s very SLOW, so I’m handling her blog. I figure if I can keep her at it, she might get it released before the end of the year. One can hope. Okay, down to business… and please read this post to the end.

Can you tell when someone is outright lying to you? There are many unconscious giveaways that signal lying. No doubt you’ll recognize some of these… 

You’re a salesperson and a smiling, potential customer says, “That sounds great. I’ll go to the bank and I’ll be right back.” Check the body language. Has the person crossed their arms, legs or ankles? Has he or she picked up a briefcase or a purse and put it on their lap? Don’t be fooled by a seemingly sincere smile and a positive statement. This person is closing up and creating a barrier between you. The body language doesn’t match the words. You should move on to a better prospect.

You suspect your teenage son of drinking alcohol the night before. You sit down with him, tell him your concerns and ask him about it. “Of course not, Mom. In fact, I purposely told everyone that I wasn’t going to drink in case anyone needed a ride. That’s why I was late coming home. The only reason I didn’t wake you up is because I didn’t want to disturb you.” This young man is protesting and giving you too much information. You didn’t ask him if he drove others, why he was late, or why he didn’t wake you. Liars embellish. A truthful kid would look directly in your eyes - his own eyes quite open - and give you a simple answer. “Don’t worry, Mom. I didn’t drink.”

Now, you would think that these two examples are easy to recognize, wouldn’t you? YOU didn’t have any trouble with them. 

That’s because it wasn’t YOUR customer, or YOUR son. 

As a body language expert, I can tell you this: 

Most people enable liars because we want to believe they’re going to buy that house, they’re not going to drink, or gamble, or cheat on us, etc.

Not me. I want to bust them…

Julie




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